One of the phrases I often write through or return to in my work is to “lean into the pain” and this is a 5 minute video from Travis Reed of The Work of the People on where it came from.

Talking about things like this is a bit hard for me – I’m not a verbal processor and to think “on my feet” like this is a bit of a stretch.  I’m more comfortable as a writer obviously. And so I’ll also share an excerpt from my book about this very thing:

Lean into the pain.

Stay there in the questions, in the doubts, in the wonderings and loneliness, the tension of living in the Now and the Not Yet of the Kingdom of God, your wounds and hurts and aches, until you are satisfied that Abba is there, too. You will not find your answers by ignoring the cry of your heart or by living a life of intellectual and spiritual dishonesty. Your fear will try to hold you back, your tension will increase, the pain will become intense, and it will be tempting to keep clinging tight to the old life; the cycle is true. So be gentle with yourself. Be gentle when you first release. Talk to people you trust. Pray. Lean into the pain. Stay there. and the release will come. 

Hurry wounds a questioning soul.

You can also watch You are Not Forgotten and Live Loved.

 

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  • Amy Hunt

    You have absolutely no idea how much God is using you, girl. He’s leading me to the truth of what you’re actually saying in my own quiet . . . AND THEN I read your words. It’s amazing. He’s amazing. And really, I just cannot begin to explain . . . !!!

  • Sweet sister…one would never know that you weren’t totally in your element in these videos. Well done for leaning into the pain of your weakness. You are birthing wisdom and transparency and authenticity on the other side.

  • Kendra

    This part of your book has really stuck with me. I never learned the importance and opportunity that God places on pain, but it’s crucial to unlocking Christ-likeness.

  • Sarah, you’re my heroine. Just love your writing, and now your videos too. These videos have spoken at some very deep places, and you’ve been so brave and so honest in sharing. Thanks. You never cease to inspire me.

  • Rachel

    Thank you, Sarah, for this. I am deep in the painful (but beautiful) process of becoming a homebirth midwife; birth is all around, and so is pain, and then new life. And I’m also in a hard place with God and scripture, and that kind of pain I tend to shy away from. Anyway, I fully get your metaphor, and I hear what you’re saying with it. Thank you.

  • Amanda

    thank you sweet Spirit for the word today from Sarah! just what I needed for this season, this moment!

  • fiona lynne

    I think you’re better at expressing yourself verbally than you think you are! These videos are beautiful and such a gift to us. Thank you.

  • Kelly

    Thank you so much for this, Sarah. It was a blessed reminder of what I knew, but each new pain comes with a built in desire to run, fight, escape. I needed to be reminded that what God is really asking me to do is rest in Him, in the midst of the pain. He is so faithful!

  • This is perfect. I love referencing birth and midwives in the faith journey. It’s my favourite.

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  • Colleen Connell Mitchell

    Hands down favorite part of the book. And seeing your sweet face in these videos and hearing it in your lovely Canadian voice makes me cry. You speak love, Sarah Bessey, and it oozes from your very being. And I am better for it.

    • Lizzie Goldsmith

      That was one of my favorite parts of the book too 🙂

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  • Guest

    “As our Jesus said, we must begin with our own life-giving lives.”

    Where is this quoted / paraphrased / referenced from? I always support this notion I just never knew where I could find it backed from.

    Enjoy your break – hope it is life bringing!

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