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In which I call Emily Wierenga a Woman of Valour {and a giveaway!}

Contest closed – winner has been notified. Thanks, S.

Some of my most-widely-read and shared posts are about body image – whether it was my promise to stop calling myself fat, or the day my eldest daughter asked if she needed to lose weight, or even my love letter to my own body, this is a bruise of a place for many of us, isn’t it? And after my work with Mercy Ministries of Canada, my understanding of the insidious and tenacious grip of this issue was expanded (and my heart was broken).  Now, in addition to recommending Mercy, I can also recommend this blood-sweat-tears-and-prayers book by Emily Wierenga.

Emily was a home-schooled pastor’s daughter who wasn’t allowed to play with Barbies or dance. At the age of nine, she began to restrict her food intake, and by the time she was 13, she was so severely anorexic, nurses were surprised she was still alive.

Chasing Silhouettes: How to Help a Loved One Battling an Eating Disorder is the story of a broken family that finds healing through an eating disorder. It’s the story of how even good Christians need redemption, and how eating disorders pervade all homes—even the seemingly perfect ones.

A unique resource, it addresses the whole of the illness: physical, mental, emotional and spiritual, providing shocking insight into the disordered eater’s mind that no other book will offer.

In addition to a stirring personal narrative, Chasing Silhouettes is comprised of advice from some of the nation’s top eating disorder experts, sample prayers for when yours run out, as well as stories of others who’ve battled—and overcome—eating disorders.

My friend Emily wrote this important book. She’s beautiful. So beautiful, so bold, so tender-hearted. She was told she would never be able to have children because of her disordered eating, and now she is the mother of two little boys, foster-mother to two more, and mama to many through her work. She’s an artist, a minister of the Gospel, and she has poured everything out for this work.

Eshet Chayil! Woman of Valour!

Well done, Emily, you are a minister of the Gospel, you are singing a beautiful redemption song for all of us, and we are thankful for your freedom voice.

God is near to the broken-hearted, and this book is a gift to the suffering, and to the ones that love the suffering.

I want to stand on street corners and hand this book out. I want to give it to every mother, to every daughter, to every woman, to every pastor, to every counsellor, every clinician.

I want to make sure people read it, understand it, and I want to see women saved.

Read endorsements and samples chapters here.

Purchase the book on Amazon

Giveaway

I have one hard-copy of Chasing Silhouettes: How to Help a Loved One With an Eating Disorder to giveaway!  You can enter to win by leaving a comment on this post; tell me one thing you LOVE about your body. (Make sure you include an email address or a way to reach you if you win.) If you want to tweet about the giveaway or share it on FB, just leave another comment letting me know that you did that, and I’ll give you an extra entry. Winner will be chosen randomly.

Shipping address must be in Canada or the USA, I’m afraid. I’ll draw a winner on Saturday 7 October 2012.


 

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  • http://www.facebook.com/sarahlbickerstaff Sarah Bickerstaff

    Hi Sarah! I’m not sure if I’ve ever commented, but I’ve been following your blog (and Emily’s!) for a while. Love both of your writing. I’ve always loved my eyes — they’re blue-green, which happens to be my favorite color. :)

    • Emily Wierenga

      thank you so much sarah. blue-green is the color of my eyes too :) peace to you friend.

  • Tiffany Norris

    Look forward to reading this! I like my smile. It is kind of giant, and I love that my daughter seems to have the same big grin (although hers is still toothless–ha).

    • Emily Wierenga

      “it is kind of giant.” awesome. that’s the best kind of smile :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/kalyn.waller37 Kalyn Waller

    I love my blonde hair – and the fact that it stayed blonde even when I became an adult.

    • Emily Wierenga

      i am jealous of this! i dye my hair blond now. peace to you! e.

  • Katie O.

    I love my eyes. Especially now that all 4 of my children have the exact same marbled blue eyes! Also, in a weird contrast, I love my ankles–because I have a rare condition that gave me extra bones on each foot so my ankles are unlike any other ankles I have ever seen. And during flip flop weather I look. I lot. :)

    • Emily Wierenga

      it is beautiful how all four of your children share your eyes–windows to the soul that they are. and i don’t know that i’ve ever met a woman who recognized the beauty in her ankles. so glad that you do. bless you, e.

  • http://twitter.com/teenbug Tina Francis

    Oh me me me!!! Pick me. :)

    I love my eyes even though I’m blind as a bat. You can tell when I’m zen, sad, happy and smitten by looking into them. And now that I’m 30 I’ve noticed some deepening lines around my eyes and I love them too. I also like the lines that form when I scrunch my nose.

    • Emily Wierenga

      oh girl. i love this: “you can tell when i’m zen, sad, happy and smitten…” love that you know yourself so well. bless you. e.

  • Emily Wierenga

    well girl, you made me cry. blubber like a baby really. i can’t wait until i can promote your books. and i wish i could hug you right now. sharing this all over the place. love you so much.

  • the Blah Blah Blahger

    I’m sure this is totally fascinating! I’d love to read it!

    • Emily Wierenga

      thank you so much friend :)

  • Mary1912

    I love, love, love my hair. I love my lips and teeth too!

    • Emily Wierenga

      it is so refreshing to see how much you love your hair (and your lips and teeth too)… i think we as women need to take more pride in our bodies. bless you dear mary!

  • http://www.allthingsbeautifulblog.com/ Alyssa Bacon-Liu

    I love my freckles! They keep me looking young :)
    Would love to read Emily’s story!

    • Emily Wierenga

      dear alyssa, i love my freckles too. they normally only pop out when i’m in the sun. bless you.

  • http://www.allthingsbeautifulblog.com/ Alyssa Bacon-Liu
  • http://www.fromtwotoone.com/ from two to one

    I love my naturally toned arms and abs!

  • http://www.fromtwotoone.com/ from two to one

    …and I tweeted about it, too! The book, not the arms/abs ;) .

    • Emily Wierenga

      lol! thank you friend :)

  • Toni near the water

    I love my hair. It’s a great color–brown/auburn with lots of silver. I’m growing it long because it’s so much fun!

    • Emily Wierenga

      oh friend i love that you love your hair, silver and all! i always tell people, i’m excited for when my hair turns grey. it’s the symbol of wisdom. bless you.

  • hopejem

    I love my eyes and I pray the speak compassion and love. I tweeted (scuse me) and I will post on FB shortly.

    • Emily Wierenga

      lol you’re excused :) and i love that you pray to speak compassion and love… i pray this too, for myself. bless you.

  • Ashlee

    I am a fan of my curves :)

    • Emily Wierenga

      yay for curves! and thank you so much for sharing, ashlee!

  • Ashlee

    Shared it on Facebook, too!

  • http://www.leighkramer.com/ HopefulLeigh

    I love my eyes and I love my rack. ;)

    • Emily Wierenga

      LOL… so awesome, girl.

  • http://www.LucilleZimmerman.com/ Lucille Zimmerman

    I was at a Christian counseling conference in Branson, MO and met Emily on the airplane. I love my eye and my smile.

    • Emily Wierenga

      hi lucille :) it was so good to meet you. i wish we could have spoken longer. bless you. e.

  • http://www.creeksideministries.blogspot.com/ Linda Stoll

    As a pastoral counselor, I say thank you so much for this sharing this resource, and showing your dear friend so much loving respect in doing so. God knows how much we need good tools as we work with those whose lives and hearts are broken and shattered.
    As to me, well, at 57, the hair, eyes, and feet are still lookin’ pretty good … most days.
    ;-}

    • Emily Wierenga

      dear linda, i so appreciate the work that you do. thank you, on behalf of so many, for reaching out and caring. and i agree with you. thank you sarah, for showing me so much loving respect. this post made me cry. bless you both.

  • http://twitter.com/annemwilson Anne Marie Wilson

    I am SO excited about this book. As someone who has recovered from bulimia nervosa, and now ministering to teen girls, I can say wholeheartedly there is a deep need for a book written for those helping the ones in the battle.

    Also, as a pregnant mom-to-be (who truly wondered if I could get pregnant after lots of torture to my body), I am more thankful for my body than I’ve ever been. Every “flaw” is now a reminder that my body is capable or producing life. And that is something to celebrate.

    • Emily Wierenga

      oh anne, this makes me want to dance. i love that you are pregnant and experiencing redemption, too… i have tears in my eyes. bless you girl. bless you.

  • Megan

    Here’s what I love about my body: Every glorious, jiggly inch of cellulite-y, blemished, imperfect skin. Every ounce of hard work and good food I’ve put into it. I love everything above the soles of my feet and everything under the crown of my head. Thank you for being an inspiration Sarah!
    - Megan
    http://www.seekingthesimplicity.blogspot.com

    • Emily Wierenga

      this makes me want to cry. thank you megan. for being so proud to be a woman. it’s a beautiful thing to witness.

  • http://www.redeemingthetable.com Kamille

    I love everything I’ve read of Emily’s. I love my shoulders & collar bone area.

    • Emily Wierenga

      oh kamille. thank you for your love. i’m so glad you have TWO places of your body that you like. :)

  • Dea’ wholedei.com

    Oh I would LOVE this. First, for me and my own continuing journey in this area, and next, to sharewith the community of women I live with out here in the prairies. (I shared an evening with Emily and our dear friend Melanie a decade ago, before any of us had found our men or our boys and we were all still dreaming of books and publication…).
    Anyways. Love my collar bone area. Weird but true ;)

    • Emily Wierenga

      dear dea! it’s been so long, girl! yes, i remember that evening so long ago, when in some ways things were so simple… i hope you are well. i love that you read our beautiful friend sarah bessey as well. bless you girl, and your lovely collar bone :)

  • rachel lee

    this made me weep. i really want to read this book.

    i’m going to be honest, i’m having to relearn to love this new post-baby body. i’ve wept to my husband about how i don’t like my body anymore, how i wish for my figure back. but he loves me anyway, he caresses me like i’m the most beautiful of women to him. and i am. and i’m learning to love me again.

    • Emily Wierenga

      oh rachel. your honesty makes ME want to cry. thank you for sharing. i have to tell you, i have another book coming out in may called Mom in the Mirror: Body Image, Beauty and Life After Pregnancy with Dr. Dena Cabrera, and i think it will really speak to you. and this? “he loves me anyway…” what a gift. bless you.

  • Laura

    my hands and feet make me happy!

    • Emily Wierenga

      yay! love this.

  • Mallory

    I love my piano-player fingers.

    • Emily Wierenga

      beautiful. i can hear the music in your words.

  • Morag Renfro

    I love my boobs because they fed my daughter for 2.5 years and it was simultaneously the hardest and most wonderful thing I’ve ever done and your blog post on breast-feeding made me cry.

    • Emily Wierenga

      oh morag i love this. yes. we find so much meaning in giving birth… in providing nourishment and essence to our children.

  • Anna

    I love my hair color. It’s somewhere between red and brown and blonde and has all these natural highlights.

    Your post about your daughter wanting to lose weight made me cry. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

    • Emily Wierenga

      i love that you love your hair color, friend. i always wanted to love mine. but i kept dying it instead.

  • http://annieathome.com Annie | annieathome.com

    I haven’t read it yet, but I have already shared this book with so many bleeding hearts I love. I love the curve of my body, the way the crescent cradles my little ones when they beg me to lie next to them, tell them their birth stories, again, before they drift off to sleep.

    • Emily Wierenga

      this is so beautiful annie. “the way the crescent cradles my little ones”…. holy words, friend.

  • http://sacredeveryday.ca/ Jenn

    Eshet Chayil Indeed. I’m so glad there are so many strong, brave women out there to be a voice of hope. I know this book will be an important part of my parenting library not only for my daughters, but their friends and me and my friends.

    • Emily Wierenga

      thank you so much jenn… your support and encouragement are greatly appreciated. bless you.

  • http://jewelsandtreasures.blogspot.com/ jewelsntreasures

    I love, I mean love my hair. It’s one of my favorite things about me. It may seem silly, but I adore it. P.S. really looking forward to reading this as I have family members who struggle with this. jewelsntreasures (at) yahoo (dot) com

  • Katie

    I have been sitting here for way too long trying to think of something……didn’t expect this to be quite so hard. Looks like I may be in need of this book more than I realized. This saddens me, and I fear for my daughters. The only thing I can think of is that I like my lips; they are naturally quite red, and I have a crooked smile which is kind of my trademark :)

    • Emily Wierenga

      oh katie, i understand. this is why i’m so grateful to have two boys, yet i know they can struggle with body image issues too. but it sounds like you are honest, and communication is one of the biggest keys to a wholesome upbringing. bless you. e.

  • Candace

    I loved emily’s guest post on your blog, I can’t wait to read the book!
    Funny story – I was planning to write something about my hair, how i love the unique color and the unruly curls that help me remember i can’t control everything, and I read the comment that said “I love my hair color. It’s somewhere between red and brown and blonde and has all these natural highlights.” and thought to myself “That sounds exactly like me!” I looked at the name and realized it was my younger sister, who has very similar hair. I should add that to my list – it makes me look like my sister whom I love so dearly :)

    slightly off topic, but my sister and i are planning to get matching sister tattoos that say eshet chayil, because it is so perfect to describe our relationship of sharing our sorrows and our joys, of encouraging each other, of the profound connection of being sisters.

    • Emily Wierenga

      LOVE that you and your sister are getting this for a tattoo. love it. e.

  • Rachel van Rookhuijzen

    awww. bodies. they are strange aren’t they? And we do strange things to them.
    Something I LOVE about my body? Why is that so hard to answer? I do love my curly hair…but I feel as though hair barely counts. My body – the fleshy bits of me are currently carrying a child and expanding daily and although I love/hate the way my body looks. I love my belly which pokes out a tiny bit more each day and how when I lay down my stomach still pokes up (the barest of bits) instead of going concave.

    • Emily Wierenga

      oh rachel, this moved me greatly… how you love the fleshy bits of you because they’re carrying your child. truly beautiful. e.

  • kelly

    What a beautiful, thoughtful, and timely post. Thank you. As a pastor, a mother, and a sister, I’ve walked with family, friends, and congregants through the murky waters of disordered eating, and it’s hard. I look forward to reading this book and gleaning from her wisdom.

    In answer to your question, I am particularly fond of my hair. It’s red and curly and I couldn’t love it any more than I do. Vanity of vanities…but in a good way!

    • Emily Wierenga

      i have always wanted red, curly hair (i was inspired by anne of green gable’s red hair when i was young). thank you for walking with so many through EDs, kelly. it moves me greatly. bless you, e.

  • http://www.athankfullheart.blogspot.com/ Miranda @ A ThankFULL Heart

    I love my belly right now. It’s housing a baby :) .

  • http://smallpigeonsnightowls.typepad.com/blog/ Nicole Kemper

    I didn’t realize that I was so tied to my body image until I had my two kids. Getting used to my new body has been so hard for me. But I am learning to be proud of my body being used for what it was intended, and finding beauty there. I love my eyes, green and unique, and from my mama. I hope one of my children gets them!

    • Emily Wierenga

      “i am learning to be proud of my body for what it was intended…” wow. yes. me too, nicole. thank you for this. e.

  • Sharon O

    I am not sure what I love about my body, perhaps it is one of the most difficult tasks to think about.
    My laugh is good and fun, and I laugh easy. So maybe that is what I love?

    • Emily Wierenga

      i love that you love your laugh sharon. e.

  • http://www.athankfullheart.blogspot.com/ Miranda @ A ThankFULL Heart
    • Emily Wierenga

      thank you miranda! e.

  • http://www.pruningprincesses.com/ Laura @ Pruning Princesses

    I love my averageness. Seriously. Average height. Average shoe size. Average width for my heighth. Legs aren’t too longs. Arm length is normal. It makes shopping so easy. And I blog about raising girls and am about to spend a week talking about eating disorders. I would LOVE to win this book. I am so excited to read it. Newest follower.

    • Emily Wierenga

      laura, i so appreciate that you love your averageness. and that you’re blogging about eating disorders. let me know if i can help in any way: wierenga.emily@gmail.com (www.emilywierenga.com). bless you, e.

  • http://www.facebook.com/patricia.pearce.9 Patricia Pearce

    I’d love to get this book as it sounds like it brings this women through a long, but encouraging journey in her life. The one thing I have always loved about myself since I can remember is my long hair.

    • Emily Wierenga

      patricia, i love this: “it brings this woman through a long but encouraging journey.” yes. that’s exactly what it does. bless you. e.

      • http://www.facebook.com/patricia.pearce.9 Patricia Pearce

        I haven’t read your book yet it, but could probably competely understand and relate to what it says as I’ve had anorexia for many yrs. and am at the point where I think I’m close to going towards recovery, I hope I’ll get there

  • Krista

    This book sounds like a wonderful resource. The thing I love most about my body is that God does not determine my worth by my imperfections; I am wonderfully made in His eyes.

    • Emily Wierenga

      “God does not determine my worth by my imperfections.” i love this. thank you krista.

  • http://www.facebook.com/cissybradyrogers Cissy Brady-Rogers

    I love my arms that are strong, open and extend the circle of God’s love around each person I hug! Thanks for your post. I’m an eating disorder’s therapist and look forward to reading Emily’s story and sharing it with others.

    • Emily Wierenga

      cissy, i appreciate that you work with eating disorder patients. thank you for sharing the word, and for helping others. bless you, e.

  • http://twitter.com/adorkablemel Melanie

    I love my strong legs that have showed me I’m a runner.

    and I would love to read this book because my sister has been anorexic for 8 years now.

    • Emily Wierenga

      oh melanie. if you ever want to talk, let me know. my email is wierenga.emily@gmail.com. praying for you as you minister to your sister. e.

  • http://www.facebook.com/sarah.g.cooper.1 Sarah Griffiths Cooper

    I love my hands, my dishpan, scarred, nail-bitten hands. I love their long fingers (my middle one is slightly crooked on both hands), their long reach, their strength, and the things that they do. The dishes, the kneading, the holding of knives and pots and pans, the massages they give to my loved ones.

    • Emily Wierenga

      i LOVE that you know your hands so well. beautiful, sarah. thank you. e.

  • Deckled Edges

    I would love a copy of this book as this is particularly relevant in some of my friendships right now.

    As for what I love about my body, I’ve always been a huge fan of my lips. Angelina Jolie has nothing on me. :)

    • Emily Wierenga

      girl, if you ever need to talk on behalf of your friends, let me know: wierenga.emily@gmail.com. bless you for standing in the gap for them. e.

  • Mary Beth Loewen

    I love my hands. Every wrinkle tells a story.

    • Emily Wierenga

      this is beautiful mary beth. “every wrinkle tells a story.” thank you. e.

  • Ashley Mann

    I like my wrists. Don’t really know why! The book sounds great!

    • Emily Wierenga

      :) i like my wrists too! bless you. e.

  • Nancy

    I help teach a lay counseling class, and I am sending this link to my pastors — thank you for the life and pain and glory that have gone into producing this book! As for my body, well, I’m just amazed that 95% of the time, it does what it’s supposed to do! That is incredible to me, really, when I consider all the things that go on without me thinking about them: my heart goes on beating without any thought or effort on my part, for example. So that’s what I love most.

    • Emily Wierenga

      oh nancy, this means so much to me. i am a pastor’s daughter, and my father and i both long to get this book into the churches. bless you. e.

  • Erin S

    I followed a link from Big Mama’s blog and I am so glad I found this. I was able to better manage a severe eating disorder after the births of my 4 children. The way my body changed after doing such a miraculous thing allowed me to see curves instead of lines and cushion instead of bone as a good thing. My oldest three are daughters and I pray that they develop positive body images and realizes God’s palette uses all colors, sizes, and shapes!
    Thank you for posting about such an important and life saving topic!

    • Emily Wierenga

      oh wow erin, this moved me deeply. thank you so much for sharing friend. God has used my children to help heal me too. bless you. e.

  • http://twitter.com/EstherEmery Esther Emery

    I love that my body SURVIVES. I had a counselor once suggest that I give my body a character, and I thought of that picture of Piglet and Pooh walking along, hand in hand. She said, which one is your body and which one is you? I said, no, no, no, neither of them are me. My phobic, scared Piglet body, befriended and carried along…by grace.

    I love Emily’s writing, and expect to love this book. Thanks to both of you.

  • Lynette

    I have a strong healthy body. So often I focus on what I wish was different, but I am working at choosing to be loving to myself, and to God who created me as I am. Here’s being brave…I love my breasts. They have been nursing my babies for the past 10 1/2 years steady, plus two years before that. They comfort, nourish, leak, look pretty, shrink, satisfy, grow, mystify, give pleasure, receive pleasure, sag.

    This book looks like such a great resource for so many areas of my life: mother of four daughters, for our church family where my husband pastors, for a nephew who struggles with eating issues, for friends in relationships touched by eating disorders. Thank you for sharing your story, Emily, and allowing God to use your journey to reach others.

  • faith hope & cherrytea

    lost my friend’s daughter who was also my daughter’s friend – to this… at 28…
    the sadness of the loss cannot be described.. ty for bringing it forward
    faithhopecherrytea at[gmail.]com

    • faith hope & cherrytea

      sorry forgot – luv the progressive restoration of my face deformed by bell’s palsy in may..