10 Ways I’m Losing My Blogging Mojo

1. I’m not easily outraged. (I often feel more sad and grieved than furious these days.)

2. I can’t drop everything to write madly and coherently about timely and hot button issues. (But I’m really thankful for the people who can and do.)

3. Something happens and I think, “oh, I should write about that!” and then I see that other people are already saying it so much better than me and I figure, well, I don’t need to write it now. So I don’t and instead I point people in their direction.

4. Most of what I write doesn’t fit into tidy lists and bullet points or bold tweetable quotes anymore. (I can’t figure out if I’m being sarcastic or ironic by putting this post into a list format….)

5.  I’m not too interested in telling anyone else how to live their lives anymore, let alone in six steps with a pinnable graphic.

6.  I write whenever I feel like it. I’m undisciplined and sporadic and all-over-the-map.

7. I’ve changed my mind before and I know I’ll change it again. I’m less inclined to plant my opinion flags all over the place.

8. I think people should be more polite to each other. #SaidTheCanadian

9. I feel gross about self-promotion and strategizing and branding. I like the language of friendship and conversation and community better.

10. What’s good for stats isn’t always good for my soul. And I’m selfish enough to pick my own soul health first.

11. I’m terrible at conflict and confrontation, arguing and “calling people out.” Seriously. Terrible. Ask my poor husband. Besides, I’m too aware of all the ways I fail and fall short to be too hard on people anymore.

12. Anyways, most of my arguments can be summed up in one sentence: hey, how about you use some common sense, be kind, love everyone, and don’t be such an ass?

13. I want to be a better listener and sometimes that means I need to shut up now and again.

14. I want to tell a better story – a story of the Kingdom of God and the ways that we are loved and we are free – instead of listing out all the ways someone else is doing it wrong.

15. I am too wordy. I turn lists of 10-things into 15 and then I say, well, whatever, screw editing, and publish it anyway.

 

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  • Oh, ditto! On all fifteen! This is the story of my blogging life… and now I don’t need to write about it because you said it so much better. 🙂

    • Ha! I see what you did there…

      • I’m echoing Nadia’s response. And now I shall stop feeling bad about my terrible lack of posts. And let the world be. Thanks for voicing exactly what was going on in my head….as always. You are so awesome! {But make sure you don’t actually stop, I think I would cry. And eat even more ice cream.}

  • Lori Harris

    LOVE every word…and ME TOO! Except the part about being Canadian…And a resounding yes to a better story. Amen and amen.

  • Rebekah Devine

    Sarah, I think the medium of blogging undermines itself. See my post (“Why I Am Not A Blogger”): http://rebekahmdevine.wix.com/blog#!jan72013/czzy.

  • Blogging doesn’t have to be these things. I’ve been blogging for almost 9 years now, and it’s only been in the last two that I was even aware of the Christian blogosphere that often perpetuates this kind of behavior. I dipped my toes in, thinking I might want a part of it, but I’m actually pretty happy doing my thing in obscurity, breaking all the rules and just enjoying having a “room of my own” on the Internet.

    • Same. I just do my own thing.

      • I know you do, which is why I love your blog so much. I think the title of this post throws me a bit, even though I know it’s tongue in cheek. You haven’t lost your blogging mojo at all – you’ve just maintained your purpose and integrity as a blogger. You have mojo in spades. 🙂

        • That’s the other problem, maybe – my usual tongue-in-cheek tone doesn’t always come across well. But you know me and so you got it. Thankful for that!

  • Everly Pleasant

    What if writing is your job? Is self-promotion always “gross”?

    • It just makes me *feel* gross. But I still do it. Let’s be real, eh? 🙂 I’ve got mouths to feed.

      • Everly Pleasant

        Yeah, it makes me very uncomfortable, and then I think “What if (insert favorite author here) had never self-promoted? I’d never have read their life-changing book.” I don’t have mouths to feed, but I’d like to live somewhere other than my parents’ house someday! It’s a weird balance though. Writers are so often introverts, not natural sandwichboard fanatics.

        • Exactly. That’s the hard thing even with social media sharing, right? Am I ‘sharing’ for people who are really interested or promoting myself? Gah. And yes, we’re not usually the ones who are good at trumpeting our own horns, anyway, are we?

  • Beth Anne

    YES.
    I used to do a ton of those & it wasn’t ME. Now I struggle to find myself in my words.

  • I’ve been so much happier writing what makes me soul-happy, poetry over SEO any day!

  • You’re my favorite.

  • hopejem

    Right there with you! #8 was my favorite until you hit #12. That brought out the Pentecostal in me… Glory!

  • Cara

    I love this post! It’s the cry of my heart, as a blogger, as well. It’s so easy to get caught up in what you’re supposed to do (in all sorts of areas of life, I think) and forget about what YOU have been asked to do. Your posts, which so often rise above what is controversial and trendy, make me think deeply, cry sometimes, and embrace my own life more fully. You are you, and you write wonderfully.
    Keep it up!

  • Mary Evelyn Smith

    “I feel gross about self-promotion and strategizing and branding. I like the language of friendship and conversation and community better.” Yes, yes, and yes.

  • Joyce Harback

    1. That’s sober second thought. And (sometimes) grace.
    2. Welcome to “wife, mother, responsibilities”.
    3. Sharing “best practices” (or best opinions)
    4. Tidy? Blogs are supposed to be tidy?
    5. No one wanted to be told anyway 🙂
    6. Or maybe it’s inspired.
    7. “Anything you say can, and will, be held against you”!
    8. #metoo said the AmeriCanadian.
    9. yes yes yes yes yes yes
    10. Selfish? Try healthy self-care.
    11. Maturity personified.
    12. Totally.
    13. Yes.
    14. Sometimes we need both but I always see the first part in your posts.
    15. Awesome.

  • Sue Peterson

    Numbers 3, 6 and 9 are why I’ve never been able to start a blog successfully. I haven’t been able to put my finger on it – I usually blame it on “not finding the right focus”. But, I really think every focus is already taken and done better by others…

  • Megan

    I’ve actually given my friends and family permission to shoot me if I start quoting myself.

    I think this is good that you’re working through this, that you’re staying open to how God would direct *you* on this writing/blogging path. Reminds me of G.D. Watson’s devotional, Others May, You Cannot. Google it. You’ll be glad you did.

  • SmallMomentsBigJoy

    #5 and #7 are the things that kicked my writing mojo in the pants. I used to write and give speeches like crazy because I knew it all and had all the answers. Now I don’t feel remotely interested anymore in telling everyone how they should live their lives. I no longer have all the answers. So… while I will soon begin writing more thought-provoking posts, for now I am going gently, gently. Keeping it light.

    But knowing me that won’t last very long. Lol.

  • I think I’ll just go and file “blogging mojo” as something that needs to be lost in order to be found? In other words minus my odd sense of humor, perhaps our best blogging mojo is the loss of this particular type of blogging mojo?

  • Your list explains why I never really felt I have had any blogging mojo to start with.

    • You’re a helluva writer, Kelly.

      • Thank you. I appreciate that a lot. I am on a break right now that I didn’t quite plan. For some reason I thought I’d be able to keep up with blogging while traveling. Not so much!

  • Remind me again, please. What’s blogging? 🙂

  • # 12 – that’s the one that can be used always and everywhere – amen.

  • I’ve been thinking lately that some days I’d rather just write about silly things, but then I come across someone who is hurting or has a pressing question, and I have something to say, and then a post comes out and it just works. But then the comments start, and I’m ready to just write something silly again. Ack.

    AND HOCKEY SEASON IS OVER!!!! (All the sads.)

  • tammy

    oh my goodness, i don’t think i ever had any mojo…. thank you for this sarah! it makes me feel a little less irrelevant and grateful for wandering thoughts that always boil down to #12. now that’s good stuff. be blessed, thank you for blessing me with your writing!

  • Sarah, these are all things I so very appreciate about your voice/blog! Particularly your Canadian-ness; it seems to me there aren’t many of us speaking nearly as beautifully and truthfully as you. Also, I think your resistance to being drawn into conflict is/can be a true strength, and that it is part of your unique perspective that many of us love.

    I hope you continue to write here with whatever pace/style/subject suits you. As a reader, I have very few expectations as to how/when/what you write. I just appreciate that you’ve chosen to share some of your self/life with the wider world, and really, you’re obligated to do none of it, so everything else is icing! (What I mean is, your blog is a gift to me, not something you owe to anyone. I’m all for rest, breaks & shifts in however you want/need!)

  • Elizabeth Evans Hagan

    Great post. I totally agree!

  • Blogging is a double-edged sword, isn’t it? On the one hand, it connects us with the community of writers and believers and thinkers and readers that help us build our writing lives. On the other hand, it totally gets in the way of the business of writing and sometimes sucks away a little bit of our souls some days. I’ve been struggling with keeping my blogging mojo for about a year. I’ve given up on the “shoulds” of blogging and am trying to just do what I want with it, platform consequences be damned.

    • P.S. I must confess that I was standing on my back porch last night, yelling “HAWKS WIN!” at the top of my lungs while you were probably donning sackcloth and ashes. My condolences. I hope we can still be internet friends. 😉

  • Erin Wilson

    You are such a freaking fabulous writer. That’s prime for me.
    (and this fellow Canadian appreciates the low-drama factor!)

  • If you’re a bad blogger, I wanna be a bad blogger, too.

  • #14. YES.
    Also, during my blogging hiatus this month I’ve realized that it is SO worth it to just blog as it suits me, not as it suits the world. My world is going to be better for it (selfish yes, but selfish for the good of my people).

    • Oops, I meant to say #12. YES (but 14 is great too) 🙂

  • Marie Gregg

    #5 just cracked me up. Especially the pinnable graphic part.

  • Heather

    “Better to write for yourself and have no public than to write for the public and have no self.” -Cyril Connolly

  • Nish
  • I totally want to write about the things that have already been written. I too stop as soon as I see it online elsewhere. It’s okay to add to the conversation, even if I think my voice is unnecessary.

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  • Yep, with you, sister. I’ve totally lost my mojo this year—and I haven’t had more fun blogging than in the 5 years when I started. I’ll happily be a bad blogger if it means keeping my sanity.

  • KristenStrong

    I like you.

    And your list too. xo

  • gretchen

    3, 7, 9, 12, and 15. You’ve summed me up perfectly. I think blogging is fab and has its place. But it’s nice that I can now look at it as more of a season that God brought and filled, rather than a lifestyle. Even if you lose your mojo for blogging, you still must, must, must (not afraid of that opinion – ha) write in some way. For yourself, yes, but for us, too. I love how you think. It’s so nice to sit in community (or as Jen Hatmaker says, “solidarity”), and nod my head in agreement, weep along with you, and cheer and clap, too. Blessings, Dear Sarah.

  • Lori Gard

    Love these fifteen…thanks for writing things that make me understand myself better. 🙂

  • Numbers 9 and 10, yes! And number 11 too, but that doesn’t really have to do with my blogging! 😉 Oh, and 15, that’s why no one but my family reads my blog, everyone else has fallen asleep from boredom!

  • YES. I have barely blogged in the last few months and then this week did a “reasons I’m not blogging” type post. Guess it’s going around.

  • Lisa Pippus

    Amen. Amen. (and seriously, number 12? Yes!) Plus I’m Canadian too, so polite is good.

  • Gina

    Someone may have mentioned this already (I’m not in a place to read through all 51 comments right now), but I don’t think you need to be outraged or have hot buttons pushed to write a good story. My favourite posts of yours are the family life stories. As a 32-yr-old single, I don’t have my own family. But I value family. And community. And love. And the real life mess of it all. And I love hearing your take on it–your perspective. You don’t always need to change or sway someone’s mind–just their heart. Keep up the lovely stories.

  • You are just getting older. Wisdom is one of the perks.

  • very well said Sarah – you just keep being you. it helps the rest of us, well at least me, to keep being all God called me to be instead of some silly knock-off. your voice is one i like to read. thanks for sharing real-deal stuff that hits the right people at just the right time 😉

  • J. Collard

    I think many of these sound like wisdom. Which begs the question of how one should write blogs with wisdom and emotional health when it seems the system is not designed with this in mind. I don’t have the answer to that question, but I think it’s a worthwhile question for myself even though I don’t blog (at least, not yet…).

    As a reader, I respect a blogger who values and lives a life with emotional health; that’s the life I want to live. I really enjoy your blog and hope you continue to explore and write with the wisdom you already write with.

  • Anne Bickle

    If that’s what blogging mojo is, then I think it’s a good thing you lost it… 😉 Or… maybe you have a whole new level of mojo.

  • Sarah, this post really resonates with me. Especially your #9: .”I feel gross about self-promotion and strategizing and branding. I like the language of friendship and conversation and community better”. You couldn’t have said it better my friend.

  • Totally with you here Sarah. You summed up in 10 (or 15) points how I have often felt. But honestly, I am coming to the pint where I believe “losing your blogging mojo” might actually help us become better writers, better bloggers and maybe even better people. So it might not be a bad thing.

  • Diana Trautwein

    Oh, yeah. Yeah.

  • I think we all grow and mature. I have lots of blogs that are in my head that never make it to ‘paper’. I have even written blogs in draft just to get it out of my system. I really do believe we should treat the blogging world (and the whole internet) as we would ‘real life’. Would I say that out loud? Would I be more circumspect? Would I be less harsh? If the answer is yes, than maybe that blog doesn’t need to be written.

    I used to only read ‘Christian’ blogs and to be honest, a lot of us are very insecure and we sound whiny. I have found sewing blogs and they are far less high maintenance. I love them and it is good to have a mix of things to read. I have also found that I love looking at the beautiful creations that people are making all around the world. It does my soul good and inspires me to use the my talent God has given me. It has be a wonderful thing to get off the internet and go and do something less boring instead. (Copyright quote from really old UK TV programme) I must go as I have a bag to make.

  • JennaDeWitt

    Hm. I have an idea for you. You know how Rachel has the Ask a series? Perhaps you would enjoy doing interviews too, but maybe about things you’ve always wanted to know or learn from the women and men in your life. Like if you had a mentor who is great with prayer, you could ask her questions about what she does to keep her prayer life going. Or someone who is passionate about social justice or homeschooling or missions or making cookies or whatever is something that people do that you want to learn about. 🙂 It’s like listening and blogging and being relational and pointing to others all at the same time.

    p.s. we love you because you’re not all confrontational and hot button and angry. And you don’t have “tweet this!!” after every line. Please never do that. haha

  • I think all these things are what actually make your blog lovely! I enjoy it so much. 🙂

  • Chic_Mama

    Oh, I SO hear you! And honestly, this is one of my favorite posts from you! I think a bunch of us fed up bloggers need to band together and get back to the heart of blogging- writing! Linking and branding and so on get tiring and frustrating on, so quickly!

  • Lucie

    Preach it, sister.

  • suznvsmith

    My unsolicited opinion…you just need a break. I haven’t read your blog for long, but when you zoom in on an issue, you really do it justice. Really…you do. I will never forget the piece you wrote about “getting lost in a sea of hipsters.” I have it like saved in my Word files!
    As far as growing as a person, becoming less adamant, and changing your mind? My 93-year old mother said to me just yesterday, “If you don’t continue to learn something new every day and change your mind once in a while, you better check to see if you’re still alive!”

  • Kelly Belmonte

    Can so relate to this post. Thank you for saying it.

  • I’ve lost mine as well and wonder what I’m doing at all. 🙂 Enjoying the summer. I DO, however, have my “sipping iced coffee whilst supervising my kids who are swimming in the ocean” mojo in excellent working order.

  • anastasia @ eco-babyz

    I don’t follow any of the rules either. Come to think of it, I need to stop putting of posts that I’ve actually written but haven’t published because there is no ‘pinnable graphic’! 🙂 #3 sums up my life lol

  • ” I want to tell a better story – a story of the Kingdom of God and the ways that we are loved and we are free – instead of listing out all the ways someone else is doing it wrong.”

    Hey Sarah, turns out, turns out, you can do all that on your blog–as you know.
    Controversy is a waste of time.Few will know what we are talking about in a year. Better write about things which matter, and things which last!

  • Wow! Looks like you really hit a nerve with this one. I’m not sure I ever had any blogging mojo to lose, but this is precisely why I blog (practically) semi-annually nowadays. Keep on with your mojo-less ways; we love them.

  • Debby

    Which is why we love you!

  • I love your wit Sarah. You make me laugh and I just so get you. Number 12 especially. I think if we could ever meet in person we would just nod and understand each other. Exactly perfectly. Then we would shake our heads together at what we see and give each other a look which says, “why? WHY?” But then we come to number 14 which is the crux of the matter. And I so get that too. Thank you.

  • Beth M.

    Funny you should write this today. I could post the same list on my blog (and it’s just stories about my life and family – with the occasional personal ditty). Maybe this is just a season of quiet for both of us.

    For what it’s worth, I love your writing. Whatever the reason, take the rest you need but please come back. 🙂

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  • jamieivey

    I’m with you. Can’t seem to write to save my life!

  • “I want to tell a better story – a story of the Kingdom of God and the ways that we are loved and we are free – instead of listing out all the ways someone else is doing it wrong.”

    That so perfectly describes the past four years of my life.

  • RachelMarieStone

    Maybe blogging is emerging into something new. I thought of this when I read Preston’s post a few weeks ago. (http://seeprestonblog.com/blog/2013/6/when-i-have-made-altars-of-sand-in-want-of-stone)

  • Oh I hear ya… 🙂

  • Yep. I concur!!! 🙂 I can’t write to popular issues… I just write to the beat of my heart. And that’s all.

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  • shaunanagins

    Sarah, this has been on my mind for days and days since I read it. Self-promotion makes me feel gross, too, but I thought I should let you know (slash show you) that you’re inspiring…and so, so not alone on the list thing.

    http://shaunanagins.com/2013/07/08/why-this-article-is-not-called-20-ways-to-be-a-twenty-something/

  • As a responder, and not a reactor, I watched my blogging career end right about when it started, but I guess it never really started since I never figured out how to play the game. Thank God for Jesus, who reassures me all the time that it’s okay. Again, your honesty is appreciated.

  • heathertruett

    I have been toying with these same things lately. Add to the list how engrossed in fiction writing I am, and you get my delimma.

  • Marie

    I want to tell a better story – a story of the Kingdom of God and the ways that we are loved and we are free – instead of listing out all the ways someone else is doing it wrong.

    I have been browsing your blog for the last ten or fifteen minutes, and kind of thinking that a lot of it seems reactionary. You are protesting against feminists who hate Christians, or against Christians who hate feminists. You are struggling to be heard as a small, ordinary voice against “the establishment.” It seems a bit angsty for one who has been set free by Christ.

    But then I read this in your top ten list, and I think that maybe you just needed to get that out, and that now you will be able to settle down into celebrating who you are and what God has for you, rather than protesting against those who would rather you be silent.

    I’m not making a judgement on your beliefs, just thinking that it doesn’t seem very peaceful for you. But maybe it’s just something that you needed to spend some time venting on, and you’ll be able to settle into peacefulness now. You do express yourself beautifully, it would be nice if it were used for edification of your brothers and sisters in Christ rather than protesting against so much.

    I’m not trying to judge you. I’ve been through times when I was coming from a place of reacting against the status quo. It’s not wrong, really. Just draining. I find my own faith more peaceful when it comes more from a place of just showing up and letting God fight the battle.
    Then again, I could be completely wrong in this assessment. I don’t know you, and I’ve only read fifteen minutes worth of your posts. God bless!