Today we are 15 weeks pregnant. I can hardly believe that we are already into the second trimester! I suppose that’s both a benefit and a drawback of your third; the pregnancy is going so quickly. The days run into one another when you are busy with two already and so sometimes I blink and have to hunt up the calendar to remember how far along I am and then I’m kerflummoxed: Really? 15 already? I could have sworn it was 13 or 14 weeks….. But here we are at 15 weeks!
I felt the baby move for the first time last week. It is a rather surreal experience, isn’t it? “I’m really truly here.” It feels much more real to me once the movement starts. I noticed the movements a lot sooner this time around – I’m not sure if it’s because I’m more seasoned at this now or if it’s because I don’t have anything remotely resembling abdominal muscles any longer. I think I’ll believe the former….
We had another appointment this morning with our midwife. Let me say, it is a ton of work to load the tinies up in the car and get into the office and have an appointment just to pee in a cup and get on the scale and have a visit! It’s a good thing that during the last few weeks, they come here to my home for the appointments.
But it was a good appointment, I love our midwives (plural because it’s a practice shared by four women and any one of them is there at any time, including birth) and all is well. Measurements are correct and the tinies got to hear the baby’s heartbeat for the first time today (it was 153).
The tinies were mesmerized by the heartbeat. Anne thought the baby was making a funny noise at her and so she tried to imitated the “wop-wop-wop” noise from the Doppler monitor to talk back. Joe was enchanted, too, standing on the chair, just patting my hair and saying “mama-bear, baby” over and over.
This is our first experience with using a midwife. I had an ob-gyn for both Anne’s prenatal care and birth and the same doctor for Joe’s prenatal care. of course, we didn’t have the luxury of her care during his birth.
But it was when I was pregnant with Joseph that I began to become quite passionate about birth and the experience of it. The more research I did, the more I came to believe that a midwife and, more specifically, a home birth was the best choice for us. Unfortunately, I came to that conclusion with just a few weeks left in my pregnancy so we didn’t think we had enough time to make a switch.
Of course, I wish now that I would have stuck to my guns and found a midwife because then we wouldn’t have had the birth that we did with Joe. Even though it all turned out well, the sheer number of things that could have gone wrong (but thankfully didn’t) is a bit sobering and alarming, if I’m really honest. I wish I would have followed that prompting in my heart to book the midwife for the home birth because it would have resulted in a lot less drama for everyone, especially me.
So this time around, we’ve placed ourselves in the care of an excellent midwifery service. I couldn’t be happier with that decision. I have already noticed a marked difference in the support and tone of my care. We are considering a home birth for this baby but haven’t made any final decisions. Since Joe arrived so quickly, Brian is understandably rather skittish about the idea of putting me in a vehicle while in labour…. We’d rather just stay put in the comfort of our own home, to be truthful. So if all stays low-risk, I’m hopeful we’ll be able to bring our new baby to the world within their own home in a peaceful and calm environment.
What are your thoughts on home birth or midwives? I sometimes get very funny looks when we talk about our choices so I’m interested in your initial thoughts….
Where the wee one’s at right now:
(from Baby Centre’s Week by Week development)
You may not know it when it happens, but your tiny tenant frequently gets the hiccups, which babies master before breathing. Babies don’t make any sound because their trachea is filled with fluid rather than air.
Although you’ve probably gained between 5 and 10 pounds / 2.2 – 4.5 kilograms, the fetus weighs in at around only 2.5 ounces / 70 grams. It measures nearly 4 inches / 11 centimetres long, crown to rump. Legs are growing longer than the arms now, fingernails are fully formed and all the joints and limbs can move. You may be able to find out the sex of your baby by ultrasound now, since the external genitals may be developed enough that the ultrasound technician can tell you if you’re going to have a boy or a girl.
If the idea of having a baby seems so remote, nothing makes it feel more real than feeling your baby move for the first time. Most mums-to-be discern movement (called quickening) between 16 and 20 weeks. If you’ve been pregnant before, you’ll feel things earlier rather than later. What you may first think is a rumbling stomach may be your baby doing some back flips. Make note of when you first start feeling the baby and tell your midwife at your next visit.