60+ Marriage Resources for Christians

As a response to my post here, here is a list of resources for couples who would like to shape their marriage on the biblically-based idea of mutual submission (often called “egalitarian marriage” in theological circles) between spouses.

This is a collaborative view of marriage based on Christian theology and tradition that serves as a faithful and prophetic alternative to patriarchal practices within marriage.

Some of these resources are theological in nature, others are more practical application. Some are overtly egalitarian while others simply embrace that theological position without labels. Most are overtly Christian, all are from diverse traditions, some are interfaith while others are appropriate for agnostics and atheists. You’ll have to see what works for you!

Here’s to joyful, life-giving, Jesus-centered, Kingdom-focused marriages!


Books

Together: Reclaiming Co-Leadership in Marriage by Tim & Anne Evans

The Zimzum of Love: A New Way of Understanding Marriage by Rob Bell and Kristen Bell

The Marriage Book by Nicky and Sila Lee

Ordinary People, Extraordinary Marriages: Reclaiming God’s Design for Oneness by Bryan Nystrom

As For Me and My House: Crafting Your Marriage to Last by Walter Wangerin Jr.

Very Married: Field Notes on Love and Fidelity by Katherine Willis Pershey

Keep Your Love On: Connection, Communication, and Boundaries by Danny Silk

A Model for Marriage: Covenant, Grace, Empowerment, and Intimacy by Jack O. Balswick and Judith K. Balswick

The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert by John Gottman, PhD. and Nan Silver (John Gottman was highly recommended and has a lot of books so this might just be a jumping off point for his other works.)

Embracing the Body: Finding God in Our Flesh and Bone by Tara M. Owens

The Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships by David Schnarch, PhD

The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary D. Chapman

Sweet Surrender: How Cultural Mandates Shape Christian Marriage by Dennis Hiebert

Marriage Made in Eden: A Pre-Modern Perspective for a Post-Christian World by Alice P. Matthews and M. Gay Hubbard

Partners in Marriage & Ministry by Ronald W. Pierce

Fit to be Tied: Making Marriage Last a Lifetime by Bill & Lynne Hybels

Marriage: Building Real Intimacy by Bill Hybels

Marriage Minutes: Thoughts for the Egalitarian (Collaborative) Marriage by Gerald Ford

Heirs Together: Applying the Biblical Principle of Mutual Submission in Your Marriage by Patricia Gundry

Beyond Sex Roles: What the Bible Says About A Woman’s Place in Church and Family by Gilbert Bilezikian

Families Where Grace is in Place: Building a Home Free of Manipulation, Legalism, and Shame by Jeff VanVonderen

The Family: A Christian Perspective on the Contemporary Home by Jack O. Balswick and Judith K. Balswick

Love After Marriage: A Journey into Deeper Spiritual, Emotional, and Sexual Oneness by Barry and Lori Byrne

Preparing Couples for Love and Marriage: A Pastor’s Resource by Cameron Lee & James L. Furrow (premarital focus) (companion website)

Before the Ring: Questions Worth Asking by William L. Coleman (Premarital focus)


Curriculum/Events/Conferences/Workshops

The Marriage Course by Nicky and Sila Lee (also The Marriage Preparation Course)

The Story of Marriage by John and Lisa Bevere

MarriageStrong via Fuller Theological Seminary

Refreshing Your Marriage with Jim and Cathy Burns

Worldwide Marriage Encounter

Get a Room! Couples Retreat with Soulation

Finding Your Equal in Dating & Marriage with Soulation

The Daring Way based on Brené Brown’s research

Prepare/Enrich

Marriage Still Rocks by John and Helen Burns


Full Marriage/Family Ministries

Real Life with Tim + Anne Evans

Permanent Passionate Partnership

HomeWord with Jim Burns and Doug Fields

Doing Family Right with Dr. Dave and Donalyn Curie

Better Marriages

Loving on Purpose by Danny and Sheri Silk

Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott

Freedom Builders / Soulation “Year of Gender

MarriageHelper 911 with Joe Beam

Sheila Wray Gregoire


Websites, Groups, & Articles

The Junia Project

Christians for Biblical Equality (or click here for a full search of “marriage“)

Rachel Held Evans blog series on mutuality

Marg Mowczko’s blog series on Equality in Marriage

The Purpose of Marriage is Not to Make You Holy by Jonathan Trotter for A Life Overseas

Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers

Jenny Rae Armstrong’s blog series Equally Yoked

Michael and Amy Raburn’s Podcast (on marriage, ministry, and family)

Amy Buckley’s aStore of resources for Domestic Violence

Greg Boyd’s sermon series “Who’s the Boss?

#StayMarried Blog, Resources, & Podcast

The Gottman Institute


My Own Marriage

Jesus Feminist (see Chapter 5 in particular)

My ongoing blog series about my own marriage is Love Looks Like including favourites:

[Love Looks Like] 14: On Marriage, Making Magic, and Demands

Tell them about the love that doesn’t show up in movies and love songs

[Love Looks Like] 2:07 a.m.

[Love Looks Like] Room to Change


Disclaimer: I have not had the time to do a deep dive into each of these resources. So I cannot vouch for them personally. However, they have come to me highly recommended and so I am simply presenting them to you as possibilities. I’ve done my best to narrow the field to materials that support egalitarian teaching as much as I can without a deep dive into the material. As always, you may encounter ideas or teaching that is in opposition to your own beliefs or perhaps even offensive or hurtful. That is certainly not my intention but it is possibility. Fair warning then, some of these resources might be a great fit for you and your theology or marriage, others may not be. I will also add that there are vast swaths of marriage practicalities or theology that are under-represented in resources – any exclusion was not intentional but rather a reflection of my inability to find faith-based resources particular to every situation/nuance. I’m hoping to continue to add to this resource page over the coming months, particularly for the under-served of our church communities.

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